Back in the good ol' high school days, our "pool of friendship" possibilities were somewhat limited. Our friends were mostly determined by where we lived and where we went to school. There are only so many kids we can meet in our classrooms, in the cafeteria or while walking the hallways. Then, there's mom and dad and maybe a sibling or two at home but we really didn't consider them "friends." At times, they felt more like enemies! And our dog, of course. They always have been and always will be our ultimate best friend.
When it comes to our human friends, however, those childhood friendships seemed to naturally form without us even thinking about how or why we even became friends. To some extent, we chose them because we shared some common interests, had a good time partying with them, or maybe just because they sat next to us in Spanish class.
But as we age and live through another decade or two, we start to broaden our life perspective. We develop our own personal values and beliefs, we meet new people, chase bigger dreams, and ultimately move on from our childhood friendships and the neighborhood we grew up in. Throughout all our daily struggles, which we call life, we start to realize and more importantly, start to feel who are (true) friends really are.
Here are 3 kinds of feelings you sense when you connect with that rare friend.
1) You feel supported.
No matter what you do, good or bad (to a certain extent of evilness), they support you in any way that they are capable of. It's something that you are keenly aware of because you just feel the love and the encouragement. It's not fake, it's not superficial, it's straight up genuine care.
Friends uplift you, they root for you, they truly want the best for you. They help lift you up when you're down but more notably they lift you up even higher when you're on the come up! They're not envious or jealous when you're happy because they're not in a competition with you. You can feel it because in those times of uncertainty (and certainty), they're supporting you and it makes them happy.
2) You feel forgivable.
There's no need to explain anything when you've done something wrong. There's a mutual, unspoken understanding of forgiveness. However, you're also not hesitant one bit to talk about and express the things you've done to make you feel ashamed, sad or even happy or proud. Friends don't judge. They accept you for your good, your bad, your ugliness. ;))) Whether you're confiding about your heinous acts or gloating about your accomplishments, you feel a sense of freedom, relief, and acceptance.
3) You just feel good.
Yup, it's as simple as that. It's really not complicated and after all, it really shouldn't be. It's a natural feeling you get that's not forced, manipulated, or judged. Whenever you encounter that friend or let alone think about that person, a feeling of joy enters your heart and subconsciously triggers you to smile.
Remember when you returned home from school and were greeted by your ultimate best friend? He or she may have scratched you, jumped on you or even licked your face, but you didn't mind because mutual joy and bright smiles lit up the room.
Do you know someone who makes you feel this way? Share this article with that rare friend or two and show your appreciation for the way they make you feel.
Shine on with your bright smiles! :)))